Jem Stopes

Jem is a COSRT Registered Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist and a graduate of the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology (CICS). They work with individuals and couples online, offering a relaxed, non-judgmental space to explore the depths of sexual and relational life.

Jem practices from a pluralistic approach, adapting their therapeutic style to meet each client's unique needs. Their influences include person-centred counselling, CBT, mindfulness and Buddhist teachings, 'parts' work, and life coaching. They work with people of all sexual orientations, gender identities, relationship structures and ways of life.

Before training as a sex and relationship therapist, Jem's first career was in languages – Russian, French, and Czech. In search of greater meaning, they hitchhiked some 25,000 miles across Europe, Africa and Asia. This journey led them to Bristol in 2016, where they trained in Mediation and Non-Violent Communication, working as a volunteer mediator with Resolve West and later applying Restorative Circles within activist groups. From 2019 onwards, Jem held a private practice in conflict resolution before training as a coach and then pursuing their diploma in Clinical Sexology.

Jem identifies as non-binary, queer, kinky and polyamorous, and brings training and lived experience with kink/BDSM, Consensual Non-Monogamy, Trans/Non-Binary identities and sex-positive culture. They work with a wide range of issues including desire discrepancy in couples, communication difficulties, attachment issues, erection problems, early ejaculation, and difficulties with orgasm, among others. Jem has a strong somatic meditation and movement practice which informs the quality of presence they bring to this work.

In their spare time, Jem produces community events with their mobile sauna and plays music with friends. They love dancing and nature.